The Impact of Language on the Behaviour Of Students with Behaviour or Emotional Disabilities.
The ability to effectively communicate with students is the hallmark of a great teacher. Personal communication, because of its emotional content is at the heart of building good relationships. The feeling of the message is just as important as the content.
It is believed that in any face to face interaction, 7% of the emotional meaning of a message is expressed with the words; 38% of the emotional component is communicated via the tone of the voice while more than half, 55%, is conveyed through facial expressions and body language
Children who have severe behaviour, or emotional, disabilities have, as a major characteristic, an extreme disability to understand, or read non-verbal cues. This incapacity is known as dysemia. In particular they have a hypersensitivity to negative social cues and are almost oblivious to positive messages. Teachers, who deal with these students, need to understand that what they may consider to be a small correction will be interpreted as a major rejection; legitimate negative feedback becomes a perceived attack.
On top of this difficulty in providing correction when students act in an inappropriate way, is that these students will also minimize, or misinterpret any positive stimulus provided by the teacher’s attempt to build a positive self-image for that student. The value of positive reinforcement as an aid to learning is also diminished.
The truth is, these students do not easily comprehend the intended objective of any message. This disability creates problems at the very source of relationships and that is our communication. What the teacher believes she is ‘saying’ and what the student ‘hears’ is very likely to be confused.
Students with this disability have a compounding feature, a propensity to be overwhelmed by the emotional content of any incoming stimulus. If they perceive the situation they are faced with as being fearful the initiation of their protective behaviour reduces their capacity to make sound, rational decisions about their behaviour.
From the figures cited above it can be seen that our body language and facial expressions provides the bulk of the emotional content of our communication. On the surface, this may appear to be an easy area to rectify; the teacher just needs to present herself in a warm, friendly manner. However, these students, with their developed hypersensitivity to emotional stimulus are not ‘easily fooled’. Teachers cannot fake their approach to these students. Not only will they misread the emotional content, they will also identify magnify the negative component in the message.
So how do we communicate with students with emotional and behaviour disabilities? First, we need to re-evaluate our attitude to these children. They are hard to like; their disability is usually expressed in ways that others find offensive. When their behaviour ‘hurts us’ that pain will be reflected in the very non-verbal cues, those we need to regulate.
Teachers need to use very strong boundaries, understanding they are not really the cause of the dysfunctional behaviour it is a reflection of their history and finally they need to confirm a genuine affection for these children.
How the teacher moves around the classroom should also be considered. These children are easily ‘spooked’ and it is a good technique to marginally slow down their movements and make that movement predictable, they know where we are going. This relaxed movement allows the students to mirror this stress-free posture.
Proximity, that is moving close to a student who is misbehaving is often cited as an effective behaviour management strategy. By standing close to the troubling student the teacher is effectively entering that child’s boundary and they will become aware there is a potential threat and they will change their behaviour.
For students with severe behaviour problems boundaries are a troubled area. For some, the definition of ‘proximity’ is marginal but they are hypersensitive to any perceived threat. It is important to never move that close to the student that you really are invading their personal space.
As over a third of the emotional meaning of any message is conveyed in the teacher’s tone of voice, like body language, the teacher cannot fake a caring and friendly quality in their speech; they must be genuine. In a sense, the adjustment made in the movement is mirrored in how the teacher talks. It is important for the teacher’s voice to be no more than moderately paced and almost monotonic. Any quick fired talk, or a voice that fluctuates across the vocal range, will emotionally confuse these students.
Experienced teachers often use the technique of deliberately lowering their voice to calm a noisy class down. Others make quiet, shhhh sound to evoke a sense of calm in the classroom. This latter practice may arouse childhood memories of a mother’s nurturing. We understand that this is not as likely for the abused child but when the rest of the class settles, so does the emotional excitement for the damaged child.
As stated, the words in the message makes up only 7% of the emotional content. However, even if we get the body language, the facial expressions and the tone in our voice right the substance of the words are important. The words will communicate the lesson content but they also direct the student’s attention, critical for students with severe behaviours. The manner instructions are delivered is an effective method of behaviour management.
The thinking process of students who are struggling to control their behaviour is at best confused. Giving clear, concise and short instructions direct the student’s attention and conveys what they are expected to do.
An effective instruction includes the following features:
Start with a verb, it is direct instruction – ‘Go to page three’!
Keep sentences short; less than five words to avoid confusion.
Limit instructions to short pauses while you continue to scan the class.
Give direct instruction only when you are starting ‘have to’ tasks. If you are offering optional tasks you give the students choice.
Questions are excellent for engaging attention or starting a discussion but when you want them to start a class use direct instruction.
Use thanks rather than please at the end on an instruction. Saying ‘thanks’ conveys the sense you assume they will complete the task.
Use the word ‘now’ if the class is becoming distracted, this is like the starter’s pistol at the beginning of a race.
Give instructions in a firm, calm and measured manner.
Wait ten seconds after the instruction is complete. Resist the temptation to fill the gap of silence.
Just as you go to work in your ‘teacher’s uniform’, dressed as a professional, clean and well-groomed, at work you bring your teacher’s voice! For example, I may use ‘colorful’ language when I’m out with my close friends but I will not swear in some social settings; I refrain from telling jokes at a funeral. What you say must be what the students expect from a teacher.
If I see a student is upset I mirror their expression in an attempt to support them. This mirroring, matching their body language and tone conveys a message that I am in tune with their feelings. Unconsciously, they get the message that I respect how they feel and I am there to support them. Once they become more settled, I would continue to reflect their improved emotional state.
When I am discussing an issue with students I often say ‘you have two ears and one mouth, use them in that proportion’. Of course, I want them to listen to what I’m saying. You must give the student that same respect. You don’t have to agree with them but by acknowledging you have listened, you can understand their point of view and a mutually acceptable outcome is more likely to be achieved.
To demonstrate your respect for what they say, start your replies to their statements with phrases like:
I appreciate
I recognize
I acknowledge
I understand
I respect
Finally, whenever you are in a dispute with a student avoid the word BUT; such as ‘your ideas are good BUT they would not achieve anything’; using ‘but’ indicates you completely disregard the ‘ideas’. Of course, they might be wrong, however when you ignore their point of view you reject them. We know that rejection is significant stressor for any person. Always remember, if you want the students to get control of their behaviour you have to get their arousal down to manageable levels. On top of this the student may have information that will help resolve the situation.
Students with behaviour, or emotional disabilities are at the mercy of their emotions. If teachers can develop their communication skills to a level that minimizes the risk of driving these students into emotional overload, they will go a long way towards the effective management of their classroom.
Much has been written about how to deal with difficult situations. In the ‘Resources’ section of our Web Page, I have included a program I designed to deal with difficult interviews, ‘Ready – Steady – Go’ which provides you with practical tips relating to the preparation of a difficult interview and the advantageous way to conduct that interview. The following is a quick summary of the ‘Ready’ section of that program.
Quite often, at school you will be faced with an inescapable meeting with a very difficult parent, colleague or student. The advice is to give yourself a short amount of time to:
Check your emotional condition (you may already be stressed from the day to day activities)
Calm yourself down
Make sure your boundaries are on; protect yourself physically and mentally
Those who have followed these Newsletters or been exposed to the philosophy behind the work we do at our consulting practice know the importance of stress in the management of behaviour. Stress is a signal from our brain that we are uncomfortable and we will act to return to a state of homeostatic equilibrium, that is regain our sense of comfort. When you are facing another person, who is attacking your sense of well-being the part of the brain that will be accessed is that part that controls our socio/emotional state; the limbic system.
So, as stress increases our access to the cognitive, thinking processes to control our behaviour decreases. To take advantage of the tips outlined in our ‘Ready – Steady – Go’ program and those available all over the internet, you need to access the executive, frontal lobes, top of the brain where rational thought takes place. The following is advice to help you manage your emotions during those difficult encounters.
We have all heard that old adage ‘fake it until you make it’ and there is some truth to this. Simone Schnall and James Laird, of Clark University have investigated what they call Self-Perception Theory which declares that when you act as though you are experiencing a certain emotional sense your body language will mirror that sense of ‘being’. The all-important key to this is that your body provides a feedback message ‘confirming’ our self-chicanery.
So, when you embark on a stressful interview act as though you are quite comfortable and confident, then not only will the other person perceive you as having such self-assurance you will feel that you have it! It goes without saying confidence is not arrogance so state your case in a quiet, unassuming manner.
Then there is the contagious capacity of how you present yourself. If, as I suggest you present as calm and assured this will encourage your partner in the dispute to mirror that behaviour.
When I taught students about the effect their emotions have on their decision making I often talked about working from the very low levels of the brain. I referred to this as being in the reptilian brain and informed my students of this information! So, when I interviewed two students who had been in a verbal slanging match I would ask, was ‘Max’ acting like a lizard? This was followed by ‘How many lizards where there’? The language was a short cut to remind them that there is no use trying to convince someone of logic when they are agitated. Wait until they return to their ‘thinking status’!
The next bit of advice is about a significant aspect that influences the ‘connection’ between you and the other person and that is eye contact. So much has been written about the eyes. Our folklore, our literature is littered with references to the power of the ‘eye’! They are ‘the window to our soul’, ‘the doorway to our heart’, ‘our eyes met across a crowded room’, ‘life passed before her eyes’ and when you can’t make your point, you demand the other person to – ‘open their eyes’! There is something powerful about eye contact. If you are in a discussion with another person and they look anywhere other than in your eyes, the only conclusion you can reach is that they are not interested.
However, just to make things a bit more confusing, the appropriateness between cultures needs to be considered. In some traditions, it is a sign of aggression if you look directly into another’s eyes. So, when students, who may be in trouble don’t look you in the eye it may well be a sign of respect. Of course, we all have experienced that defiant student who unwaveringly glares at you when you are discussing some dispute, hardly respect more likely some veiled threat!
I understand this but I suspect that when individuals get beyond a notion of power difference, eye contact between people is more universal. That is, when we get to the stage that we are building a relationship eye contact is crucial.
Jodie Schulz, of Michigan State University discusses the 50% - 70% Rule. This recommends you make eye contact 50% of the time you are speaking and 70% when they are talking. This sends the message that you are more interested, or at least as interested in what they have to say compared to what you say.
On top of this the transition away from that focus should be gradual. Abrupt changes to your attention indicate that you have been ‘uncomfortable’ looking in their eyes inferring a sense of insincerity. Or, if you look away at something quickly the message is that the thing you set your gaze on is ‘more interesting’ than listening to what they have to say.
As the relationship develops, the level and ease of eye contact increases.
As I indicated at the start of this Newsletter, the resource we have up-loaded to our webpage provides a formal procedure in dealing with difficult people. This article provides some clues to help you create the supportive emotional setting to facilitate a successful outcome in those difficult meetings.
In a previous Newsletter (4th September 2018) we spoke about the importance of looking after yourself while working in a stressful classroom. At that time, we discussed things that you can do to maintain healthy levels of stress on an ongoing way. Suggestions were to:
Debrief – Discuss the incidents with a trusted other; why they happened and how to avoid a repeat of those situations that generated that stress.
Boundaries – This is a topic that has been examined in recent postings but in general it is how to protect yourself in the stressful situation.
However, as we approach the end of the school year, this article focuses on the recovery from a long and stressful year at the chalk-face.
It is a tradition that teachers are all asked to ‘enjoy a well-earned break’ by the authorities of the day but to do so would rely on an ability to control our bodies through some cognitive instruction. Such a statement demonstrates the lack of understanding of how the brain works. It is as useful as telling a dysfunctional child to behave themselves! If it was only that easy.
At the end of any school year even the most competent teachers suffer from an annual ‘burn-out’. This happens because during any day the teacher is confronted by situations that ignite our fight/flight response. It is this reaction that prepares us for the release of hormones like adrenaline, norepinephrine and epinephrine. The energy generated by this response should be released as we actually physically fight an opponent or flight from the situation. Following that sequence, we release cortisol into our system to readjust our physical sense of wellbeing.
But, as teachers it is inappropriate to take physical action against our students and so the energy we created for survival is not used and remains in out body. Further the cortisol that naturally follows has no real work to do and so remains taking a corrosive toll on our body.
During the year, with the overwhelming schedule that demands a teacher’s time there is little opportunity for ongoing maintenance for each episode and so there is a cumulative cost on teachers’ physical wellbeing.
When we come to the ‘big-break’ teachers are tired, worn out and even though there is a demonstrated link between stress and illness. Paradoxically, when the teacher goes on leave and the situations that constantly generate that stress somehow that ‘readiness to protect’ is removed and it is common for teachers to suffer some physical disintegration. How often do you hear of colleagues getting the flu at the beginning of any holiday?
So, to take advantage of the annual opportunity to recover the first consideration is on our physical wellbeing.
Physical Activity
It is well understood that exercise uses those stress hormones and importantly releases the endorphins that promote a feeling of mental health. Exercise uses our energy budget and then promotes healthy sleep patterns that also support our physical wellbeing.
Just how much exercise depends on your own physical shape. It would be pointless for someone in their twilight years to take off on a marathon run. For some a brisk walk is an appropriate holiday start to recovery.
If you take these walks outdoors you will restore your connection with nature. This is called ‘earthing’ or ‘grounding’ that calms the nervous system and reduces inflammations and increases our blood circulation. This ‘earthing’ is also associated with working in the garden.
Finally, think about undertaking some relaxation activities. These can be formal joining some meditation classes or yoga or it could be a restful hobby like painting or knitting.
Just make sure the exercise is pleasurable – resist any thought of building another challenge. This is about recovery not kicking off another ‘task’!
Feed your Recovery
There is plenty of information about the use of food and supplements to reduce your stress. If you look at any of these resources they will include the obvious warnings about fatty foods, too much alcohol or caffeine. This will be a bit of a challenge around the celebrations of Christmas especially on ‘the day’ but use common sense.
What will be helpful is to take time to prepare your ‘special’ meal with someone you enjoy sharing wonderful moments with. Take the time to find that particular recipe, source the ingredients and delight in being the ‘Master Chef’ in your kitchen.
Share Your Love
Take the time to reconnect with family and friends. Shelley Taylor of UCLA coined the phrase ‘tend and befriend’, the reverse of ‘fight or flight’. Instead of generating the defensive stress response; ‘tend or befriend’ releases oxytocin that enhances our wellbeing.
This is reported to be stronger for woman than men but I would encourage all men to give this a go. Taylor cites the benefit of cuddling, hugging kissing and loving intimacy as a great way to rebuild your body.
Not only share the intimacy, share activities like going to concerts or sporting events. Share laughter and those moments that are so rare in your working life.
Finally, take control of your smart phone. For most of my career I did not have any way to contact the ‘Department’ when I was on holidays and I got through. If something is so important you will be contacted so take control of your digital life. The friends on Face Book will not ‘tend or befriend’ you so get some human contact!
This is the last Newsletter for 2018 so we would like to thank you for your support and also thank you for all the work you do for those children who need you. Have a great break and we will be back next year!
A diagnosis frequently made for students who cause behavioural problems is Oppositional Defiance Disorder (ODD). ODD is characterized by constant disobedience and hostility towards authority. This diagnosis is a fair description of those kids who continually oppose and defy teacher instructions. In a previous Newsletter I discussed the importance of trust and the lack of trust is at the heart of ODD. This condition is the gold star expression of loss of trust. Most information about this condition discusses its causes and manifestations; but the question rarely asked is why do they choose to act in a way that almost guarantees a negative consequence. What is it about that drive to defy when the cost can be so punishing?
I have taught many such children and have felt helpless in the face of this self-destructive behaviour. Even if you give them the choice to change their behaviour; they understand the consequences of continuing that behaviours and you know they really don't want those results; they will still ‘choose' to act in that defiant manner. My understanding is that the behaviour is an inability of trust. The fact is they believe that if they follow your direction, they are conceding to you power over them and in their history trusting someone exposes them to abuse and/or neglect.
This refusal to ‘do’ as required has huge ramifications for teachers who have one or two such characters in their class. Statistics from the US estimate that about 10% of all children develop ODD but these statistics may well be exaggerated however, there is general agreement that at least 2% of children will reach the threshold of ODD diagnosis.
Another point to be considered is the ‘severity’ of the expression of defiance; this can range from mild, general reluctance to extreme levels of defiance. There is another factor that reflects the correlation between socioeconomic dimensions of a community and the frequency of the expression of ODD.
So as a teacher you had better prepare yourself for such students. Even in the day-to-day evaluation of students, learning relies on students ‘being told' how to respond to situations presented to them; such a regimented approach to ‘success' for assessing the ODD student makes this way impossible. Because of their defiant attitude they almost always are obliged to refuse to comply.
This refusal is because:
For the ODD student, the very presence of an authoritive direction means the student is driven to say no! Compliance means giving up their ‘safety.’
To really try to do the test to the best of their ability exposes them to the risk of failure. These children will avoid taking chances because of their innate vulnerability. These kids will inevitably come from a position of toxic shame (see Newsletter 19) and the drive to defy is enhanced by the belief that to be good you need to be perfect. These kids are already refusing to complete lesson tasks so they know they will fail.
As I pointed out at the beginning of this Newsletter, these ODD children will refuse to follow a direction even if they understand any negative consequence of their disobedience and the loss of something they may like if they conformed. This dilemma, of being dammed if they did and dammed if they didn't, was exemplified in a test given to a young delinquent in a detention centre. He refused to answer any question on the exam paper. When it was returned, he had received an ‘E’; he genuinely thought the ‘E' stood for excellent and you could see the delight he was experiencing. It was easy to find this amusing but it was so heart-breaking when you understood what this meant.
In the first instance, this boy was so intellectually delayed he had no idea that consequences were related to his actions. But why would he think he was responsible for a result that was linked to his efforts? Life was done to him and right now life had given him an ‘E'! The second distressing message was the delight he showed when he thought he had passed. His reaction confirmed was that he really would like to be such a success.
Helping these children is the core of our Consultancy. Providing this 'help' is a challenging undertaking but one worthwhile. There is no proven way of dealing with these kids or for that matter all those kids who are going to ‘fail' in a punitive system that wants to sort the good from the bad. All I know is that if you can build enough trust in these kids, so they do want to participate in school you will have past the teacher's test – with a great big ‘E'!
Much has been written about the significant relationship between learning outcomes and trust. Trust across all levels of the schooling system whether that is between the community and the school, the system and individual schools and most importantly between the teacher and the student(s).
Dean Fink, from Ontario in his article ‘Trust in Our Schools: The missing part of school improvement?', gives an excellent summary of research that shows that across the developed nations PISA results correlate strongly with the social levels of trust. Statistically, high levels of trust result in better learning outcomes. He points out that when policy makers introduce easily measured testing regimes and insidious compliance tasks the level of trust contracts. He goes on to suggest that the Australian "federal government's recent school improvement efforts are heavy on low trust strategies." This observation explains the emerging dissatisfaction experienced by teachers across the system and the exodus of young teachers from our profession.
This significant relationship, between trust and learning is more critical when dealing with those students with severe behaviours. Their developmental history almost ensures a natural distrust of the authority at school.
Erik Erikson, the German-born American developmental psychologist points out that psychosocial development including basic trust occurs in the first two years of development. A child raised in a predictable and affectionate home with caregivers who are reliable and competent will have the confidence to trust the rest of their environment. That is, they are optimistic about their future and teachers and schools are afforded trust.
Conversely, and generally the children with severe behaviours are raised in homes where the opposite conditions apply. That is their environment is chaotic, attachment is at best marginal and there is no foreseeable individual success; why would these children have any trust?
The thing is, trust is the belief something will happen following a given set of circumstances. At school, these insecure students will at best predict an unpleasant outcome but more likely will have no idea what will happen. It becomes critical that their teacher must develop the child’s confidence in the future before any meaningful learning can take place.
There are steps in developing trust in students. These are:
Provide a predictable, caring environment where the boundaries between the teacher and the student are well defined. Providing a structured set of expectations allows the student to develop the sense that it is their behaviour that initiates adverse outcomes, not the belief they have an inherent incompetence. This separation of the student's sense of worth from the mistakes they make will slowly have them accept corrections from the teacher without destroying the relationship.
Students with a history of abuse and neglect are locked into the present moment as they tried to survive the situation in which they find themselves. Eventually, they will be able to project into the future by trusting the advice given by the teacher despite the lack of any evidence these things will happen.
They will come to believe that putting in an effort will pay-off despite there being no real understanding between their efforts and some future reward. So often we teach students subjects that, in all honesty they really would find it difficult to connect to some future but because they trust us they learn these lessons now without a guaranteed pay-off.
This last point is huge for these challenging students. When they have developed real trust, they are risking their vulnerability, having faith that we will not exploit this exposure. Never underestimate the core levels of fear these kids live with. In early childhood, their abuse and neglect was linked with dying and this experience has imprinted overwhelming feelings of fear that normal children would never associate even with low-level rejection or mild threats. For these children to expose themselves is an enormous level of faith in the teacher. Eventually, this trust could be generalized and they could begin to trust the world.
Developing trust in these children is a gift from you. Any teacher who takes the time to develop this level of trust is making an incalculable contribution not only to that child but also to their classmates, their school, and society. The real bonus is their success will repay you in a way that is your real, unmeasured contribution to education!
As mentioned in previous Newsletters your boundary is that place where you intersect with the outside world and in most discussions, we focus on how you can protect yourself from assaults. Although boundaries include physical threats, in this context we are really talking about social attacks. However, in this work we will include a discussion on our responsibility to not violate another’s boundaries.
This work is specifically for teachers and school executives dealing with children but the principles apply to anyone who supervises others.
One of the determining factors regarding relationships and how negotiations take place is the relative position of power. Where students are concerned the teacher enjoys a definite power advantage. They are the official representative of the school, the education department and government when it comes to dealing with kids. If they make a request the students can assume that request is backed by all those who support the teacher.
Schools are a place of learning and teachers rightly challenge kids to acquire an understanding of that academic material. At that time, the teacher has studied that material at a tertiary level while for the child it is their first exposure. It is easy to dismiss their attempts if you are more interested in inflating your ego then supporting that child’s emerging understanding of the work you present.
From the perspective of the students that position of authority allows you to be part of the ruling faction in the school. The fact that you are part of the ruling elite gives you a type of status that infers more power and authority.
All children are dependent. The journey from early childhood on to graduation from the schooling system is marked by a steady decline in that dependence. Therefore, the younger the student the hungrier they are for validation and affection. Affection reinforces their needs to belong in the group and validation confirms their value to that group. These are necessary building blocks for a strong and robust sense of self for the adult you.
The core of our work has always had as its main focus helping and dealing with difficult students. Like all children, students who have been subjected to abuse and neglect hunger for affection and validation. For these children, the age they are is not as important as the position they find themselves on the development of a strong sense of an authentic self. I have seen children in their mid-teens who crave for affection and validation, a time when for normal development this need would be diminishing.
This desire for approval make these children easy to disappoint and the failure to provide appropriate affection and confirmation of their worth is a covert form of abuse.
How do you check that you are not violating the student’s boundaries? The following questions of self-examination will help you decide:
1. What needs are being met by your action?
When you are concerned about what you are doing, the best thing to do is examine the drives you are satisfying by that behaviour. Just as you experience levels of stress when others are coming up against your boundary you will, or should get the same feeling sensation if all is not going well at the frontier of yourself. That’s the time to examine just what is going on.
2. What are your responsibilities?
In your role as teacher it is incumbent on you to deliver consequences for behaviours. This is at the heart of your professional role and so your interventions regarding the behaviour of others should only be within the domain of your responsibilities.
3. What are others’ responsibilities?
Just as you have a defined area of responsibility so do others, including the students. It would be wrong if a child misbehaved and you did not deliver the appropriate consequences, perhaps you thought someone higher up the school hierarchy should do that work or you didn’t think it was your job to correct the child. The fact that the child did not get a consequence does a great deal of harm to the development of strong boundaries in that child.
4. How would you like others to judge your behaviour?
The final question is really, would you behave that way if it was in full view of others. The disapproval of our peers is a most powerful motivator. Rejection, in a world sense is life threatening and so when under the public spotlight the drive to act in acceptable ways is extremely powerful. When you are in a position of power and away from the public view it is easy to forget your responsibilities, and take short-cuts to get kids to confirm. The real question is ‘am I doing the right thing?’
A good way to protect yourself is to refer to the following ‘check list’:
Act as if everything you do is under complete scrutiny
Act with complete fairness – have no favourites
Keep everything available for review – keep records of your behavioural interventions
Do not use personal emails with students, beware of social media – this is an extremely dangerous area for a teacher. Remember when you push that ‘send’ button, your message is potentially all over the world, for all time and you can’t get it back
Get consent for one on one meetings and hold them in school and in business hours – never take the chance of interviewing students in areas or times that others can misconstrued or the student can make allegations you can’t defend.
Treating others’ boundaries with respect is a difficult thing to get right all the time and despite these suggestions above there is no real, set in concrete rules. For example, should you ever touch a student? Of course, there are times when it is really appropriate and professionally proper to support them when they are hurting but that touch must be appropriate. Eventually it comes down to your professional judgement and if you have the best intentions you will learn to be that real ‘significant other’ students rely on as they make a safe transition into becoming their adult, authentic self!
A recent publication from the New York Academy of Science (2017) has examined the literature that reviews the connection between socioeconomic disadvantage and the development of attention, learning, and resilience. They considered the evidence of over a century particularly with tests that measured cognitive functions, language development, and attention and this has shown a difference between children of low and high socioeconomic status (SES). The children from families with high SES consistently scored better than those from underprivileged families.
Studies in neuroscience also identify the link between the stress related to poverty and the neurological development of these children's cognitive landscape particularly in the limbic system, that area that modulates reactions to threats, the formation of memories and access to the executive functions of the brain, the prefrontal, and frontal cortex.
The following characteristics of a low SES community that create these adverse conditions are:
1.Chaotic Environment
Growing up in poverty has commonly been associated with conditions that trigger elevated even chronic levels of stress. Low SES families are more likely to live in chaotic households where living arrangements are haphazard; the home discipline is unpredictable, there is a lack of routine and access to healthy diets.
Research has shown increased levels of stress-related chemicals associated with the physiological adaption of the body in response to threat including surges in the erosive chemicals catecholamine and cortisol. Continued exposure of these conditions increases the size of the amygdala, which makes the child vulnerable to stress and reductions in other significant parts of the brain including the hippocampus, the frontal lobes, the corpus colossus and the cerebellum.
2. Social Isolation and Deprivation
Children from low SES have fewer or even lack social interactions. They are less likely to attend preschool and miss that important opportunity to develop the skills to relate to their peers. This social isolation has been strongly associated with long-term health issues such as cardiovascular problems and sleep deprivation.
3. Maltreatment
Experiencing abuse in childhood can occur in all SES but research shows that abuse is much more likely to occur in the low SES areas. This variance indicates that the SES of the neighborhood can explain 10% of the child’s health and adolescent outcomes.
The Gonski Review revealed that schools in low SES areas reflect the conditions of neglect in these homes. These schools, despite herculean efforts of the teachers are often chaotic because of the characteristics of the children who attend. The accompanying lack of resources because of government neglect and the absence of wealthy P&C’s exacerbates efforts to improve conditions. There is a further concentration of these undesirable conditions through the exodus of children from higher SES households who send their children from the local school to either private schools or the ‘so-called' selective school, many of which are no more than a weak excuse from the government sector to combat the drift to the private sector.
However, this exposure to adversity does not condemn a child. Some do acquire a natural resilience that helps their development, but for others it is only through the experience of social cohesion and supportive relationships found at school that children can ameliorate the potential damage carried out in their home.
It is in the schools where the healing can take place, and it is up to society to provide the resources for schools that 'service' these areas. The real cost of continually ignoring the needs of these communities comes later when society is forced to deal with the unemployment, the mental health issues, the addictions and the continuation of the poverty spiral.
The rewards for effort in this area is not only for the children but also the long-term health and wealth of our society.
Teachers are continually frustrated at the beginning of lessons with the disruption of some students who take a long time to settle down. For some, it's just a matter of them calming down after the excitement of the lunch break or the ‘freedom' of moving from one classroom to the other and for this vast majority experienced teachers have no problems. But, for some students, those with severe behavioural issues this disruptive behaviour can be driven by elevated levels of anxiety, a consequence of the memories of previous unpleasant experiences in the classroom. If we look at particular interventions that have been traditionally used to deal with children who suffer from uncertainty and anxiety, we soon find ourselves examining the use of rituals.
Throughout ancient history civilizations emerged in relative isolation. One cause of anxiety, common in all communities was death and almost all developed intricate rituals to deal with the anxiety and sadness of this inevitability. To deal with this tribal communities developed rituals, funeral ‘services’ to ease the pain of grieving. The application of a set of prescribed activities somehow lessens the heartache of loss.
Other rituals developed to deal with the anxiety that comes from the uncertainty of the future. For example, when early communities made the change from being hunter - gatherers to a reliance on agriculture, they soon realized that the success of next year’s crop depended on a range of factors that were beyond their control. To ease the anxiety they developed rituals, including the sacrifice of animals or other humans to appease a supernatural force in the hope that this ritual would ensure next year’s crop.
It becomes evident that rituals are useful in dealing with occasions that are potentially ‘dangerous’ or where the desired outcome is marginally out of your control.
At a personal level, rituals can be any sequence of actions that may consist of words, touching objects or focusing on a particular object that is designed to reduce tension. These activities are developed by repeatedly performing the same act every time we are exposed to that uncertainty. It is the focus on the sequential activity that alleviates the anxiety of contemplating on the potential outcome of the task at hand.
The use of rituals is widespread in sport. As a coach, I used the same sequence of activities before every game no matter how important each was. For the 45 minutes before each kick-off, all players and staff were required to complete a set of tasks. Within each task players were taught to incorporate their own ‘rituals,' such as putting their left boot on first, listening to music or whatever within the framework of the team procedure. When it came time to take to the field, I had ensured they were ‘ready to play’; they had confidence in their ability to succeed.
An important fact is that both the players and I understood that the rituals in themselves had no magical powers but the use of a structured predictable (how often do I use the words structured predictability) sequence of events helps reduce anxiety and focus on the task at hand.
Now returning to our challenging students, they have a sense of self that is associated with academic failure. As teachers, we need to be prepared to deal with their understandable anxiety. Remember, whenever they have come into a classroom, they have come face to face with the memories of past experiences, most of which are recollections of failure and embarrassment. In fact, to ask these kids even to try to do academic work puts them in an extremely vulnerable position. Furthermore, to invite them to do their best, risks potential ridicule or rejection if they fail. Better to be a 'bad' kid than a dumb kid is a choice they make.
So, if you have students like this, or even if you have kids that are extremely well adjusted the use of rituals will increase the early engagement and consequential success of your lessons. The teams I used to coach were of elite standard and played at a national level, and they certainly understood and benefitted from this structure. However, it is those damaged kids who will get the best out of this approach.
No one can ever predict the future with certainty. Most of us have a fair idea what will happen if we follow a specific course of action. These kids, who come from chaotic backgrounds, have no idea they have any influence on what happened to them. But, if the start of today's lesson is the same as yesterday’s and the day before, eventually they will get a sense of predictability and instead of being full of anxiety from the very start of the lesson they are at least available for the next step of the lesson.
Rituals are also effective for teachers who suffer from anxiety when facing a class. I’m sure we all had a level of anxiety when we began our careers and I’m equally sure there are classes that still cause us increased levels of apprehension. Having a ritual will help the teacher just as much as their students.
Early childhood trauma is well established as the major contributor to disrupted neurological and behavioural development in children. The inevitable outcome from the abuse and/or neglect that creates this trauma is a child whose repertoire of behaviours coupled with an adverse cognitive construction limits their ability to engage in our classrooms on an equal footing. Although there is a recognition that these children do suffer from a ‘mental health' disability there remains a reluctance to embrace these kids with the same compassion as those whose disability is more visible and less offensive.
But what constitutes trauma? (The term ‘trauma’ is also used in the medical field to describe an assault on the physical body, but for this work, we are discussing psychological trauma) The short answer is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience or a negative event that is painful and overwhelms a person’s ability to cope.
The three conditions where trauma can occur are:
Shattered Expectations – We all have a belief that things will be OK in the future. We live on an ideal beach with the surf lapping at our front door – then a tsunamis hits and your family has washed away; you're driving home from work and you’re hit by a truck that is out of control.
These events and countless other potential disasters, if experienced, force you to accept that a single person has no real control over natural forces. Most of us will never have to face such events but for those who do the resulting stress levels leads straight to trauma!
Human Vulnerability – All our life we wake with an expectation that we will live through the day and repeat this process over and over. We fail to see the fragility of our bodies and the tenuous grip we have on life. However, if you witness an unexpected death, a road accident, murder, industrial accident or perhaps the onset of a fatal disease you become fully exposed to the reality of death and how helpless we are to prevent it. If you have ever seen such an event, you will understand the trauma that surrounds it. Imagine working in an area such as a war zone or the scene of a natural disaster, this human vulnerability is reinforced time and time again. It's little wonder soldiers, police, rescue workers, etc. are highly likely to suffer from Post-Traumatic Stress.
The Human Capacity for Evil - History is full of major events that illustrate our capacity for evil. The holocausts, Pol Pot’s regime in Cambodia and the countless war crimes reported throughout history all confirm that humans are capable of a level of ‘evil’ behaviour that is rare in any other species.
Such malevolent actions are not limited to these large-scale examples, go to any emergency ward in any public hospital, and you will see children, women and male victims who have been beaten for no reason than to satisfy some wicked person’s desire.
The reality that some humans do not share a capacity for kindness, tolerance and a fair-go shatters the belief system we depend on and when we witness extreme malevolence we become traumatized.
The types of trauma that tend to have the greatest adverse psychological consequences are those related to interpersonal or intentional trauma. These include childhood abuse and neglect.
But identifying these underpinnings of trauma do not appear to be relevant when discussing the trauma of young children. Their cognitive development would make any real comprehension of the conditions outlined above almost irrelevant. So, what are the conditions that traumatize kids?
This is a difficult area, what will traumatize an infant is different from say a two-year-old, this difference reflects the variation in their social/intellectual development. I have attempted to create a crude model that illustrates the differences. I have put these into stages. However, the underpinning feature is the shattered sense of safety.
Stage 1. Infancy
Traumatic factors will include frightening visual stimulation, loud, unexpected noise, being hurt or abandoned. The child's increased stress levels are a response to the fear of ‘death' even though they are incapable of that concept. For them, ‘death' is the removal of support.
Stage 2. Early Childhood
The initial conditions still apply, but now the reliance on relationships becomes a more significant factor. Children, who are abused by primary care-givers not only suffer the trauma of that abuse they also interpret that as a complete rejection from the very person they rely on for survival. Because they are intensely ego-centric that rejection must be because they are ‘bad’. This is the foundation of their sense of toxic shame.
There is also the situation when they see their mother beaten. Mum represents life and when that is threatened the child suffers trauma. Some research contends that seeing mum beaten does more damage than being hit their self. Bizarrely, they will believe they deserve to be punished but not their mum. Seeing their siblings abused continues this trend of helplessness in the face of evil.
There was a time when people believed that because their ‘memories' had not developed that the children would not suffer long-term consequences from the abuse and resulting trauma. This idea that there is no impact could not be further from the truth. Early childhood is the most vulnerable time for children and those who visit abuse or neglect on children at this time in their life are creating the maximum psychological scar possible.
The dominance of male students who appear in suspension data or are attending special settings for ‘out of control’ behaviour, is a feature of all school systems. If you agree with us that most dysfunctional behaviour is formed in abusive early childhood environments, this reality is counter-intuitive as young girls are at least as likely to be subjected to abuse as boys. In fact, there is a strong case for inferring that girls are more likely to be abused when you consider that sexual assaults by adult males are most likely to be directed to females.
The simple answer to this quandary is that these behaviours are cultural and historically females have learned to stay quiet about how they feel and suffer in silence. There is some truth to this but I offered an explanation about these disproportionate numbers. This belief based on the work of the anthropologist Louis Leakey who hypothesizes that boys have evolved to externalize their actions. Once humans became the apex species the main threat to survival was attacks from another tribe. In the event of such battles males had a greater chance of survival if they act-out, fought the invaders or ran to safety; that is they took action. Such a response was not as effective for females and children. They were more likely to survive if they surrendered or dissociated. They would be taken as trophies.
Reasons that lead me to support this conclusion are that even in modern ‘tribal wars’ like those during the break-up on Yugoslavia in the 1990’s, the Balkans and Kosovo saw acts of murderous brutality against the male populations. The resulting mass graves were primarily filled with the bodies of potential opponent soldiers.
I believe this underlies an examination of the suspension data in our schools. Up to about age ten or eleven the suspension rate of boys is marginally higher than girls. When we look at the data for puberty and beyond the figure for boys explodes. I suggest this is when their adult disposition is initiated.
If you look at the most common diagnosis of dysfunctional behaviour that results from early childhood abuse the most common are Conduct Disorder, Oppositional Defiance Disorder and Dissociation Identity Disorder. The first two disorders are largely populated with boys; in the latter girls dominate the numbers.
In broad terms dissociation from the immediate environment is on a continuum ranging from mild detachment to a more severe isolation. It is a detachment from the reality rather than a loss of reality that occurs if the child is suffering a psychotic episode. The clinical description of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) is a single person who experiences himself/herself as having separate parts of the mind that function with some autonomy. It manifests as a lack of connection in a person’s thoughts, memories, feelings and actions.
As stated above almost exclusively these people have documented histories of repeated, overwhelming and often life threatening trauma during sensitive developmental stages of childhood. At the time of the abuse when the child is faced with this overwhelming trauma and there is no physical escape, they go away ‘in their head’. This is a highly creative method of survival allowing them to endure in apparent hopeless situations. If the trauma is repeated eventually this develops as an automatic response to situations which have similar environmental characteristics, despite not being life threatening. That is if the stimulus presented has strong ‘reminder’ qualities of the original traumatic event(s) the child will dissociate.
How does this disability appear in the classroom? It does and is a real interference to the potential learning outcomes for these students. The problem for teachers is that these, mostly girls are quiet and compliant and pose no obvious challenge. The student’s ‘invisibility’ is intensified in classrooms where there is a core of students with acting out, dysfunctional behaviours. Teachers are so occupied controlling the obvious problems these girls are left to suffer in silence.
However, schools have a duty to support these students so they will learn. The following approach will at least create the conditions that allow the students to operate in an environment that will improve the student’s personal control. These include:
Creating a structured environment where the students learn to predict the consequences of their behaviour thus allowing them to regain a sense of control in their life
Developing a place that is safe and secure for the students
Developing strong boundaries for the students so that they can protect themselves against stimuli that has the same characteristics as the early abuse but not the same ‘real threat’
Presenting a program where the students get their needs met
Developing a cognitive framework for the students so that they can sort out how they think and feel, undoing damaging ‘self concepts’ and learning about what is ‘normal’
Hold the students responsible for their behaviour
The dissociated student presents a real challenge but along with the steps outlined above it is powerful to point out to the student that they have the right to participate and to get their needs met.
The principals of the company have had long careers in education with a combined total of eighty-one years service. After starting as mainstream teachers they both moved into careers in providing support for students with severe behaviours.